funeral flowers on standing easelsA funeral can be a harrowing time for friends, family members, colleagues, and any number of people in the lives of the deceased. It most certainly is not the appropriate time to make any kind of etiquette faux pas, no matter how large or small. The same goes for either gifts or flowers. Want to make sure you are following all the standards of etiquette when sending funeral flowers? Here’s how:

Etiquette for Funeral Flowers is based upon Your Relationship with the Deceased

Open Heart WreathEtiquette for funeral flowers can change based upon your relationship for the deceased. For example, close family members are expected to buy some particular arrangements, such as those nearest the body, or on the casket. Then, extended family members are expected to buy other, standing sprays, wreaths, or large, dramatic arrangements for the funeral, or for those who attend to take home after the service. They can be either traditional or contemporary. Close friends can sometimes consider themselves members of the extended family. Those who are business associates or only acquaintances may consider sending smaller wreaths, arrangements, or baskets.

What if You Only Know a Friend or Relative of the Deceased?

Even if you do not directly know the deceased, you can still send the same type of the flowers you would if you were only a acquaintance or business associate. Or, if you know a loved one who is dramatically affected by the death of that person, you may want to send those people flowers, directly. Consider sending sympathy flowers, a gift basket, or flowers to their home or office. This shows them you still care why not possibly offending any of the close family at the funeral.

Religious Considerations

Do not ever assume that religious considerations has nothing to do with appropriate arrangements or funeral flower etiquette. For Protestant Christians, Baha’I, Buddhist, Mormon, and Eastern or Greek Orthodox worshippers, you can send nearly any arrangement. For those who are Buddhist, or Mormon, refrain from cross arrangements. Eastern and Greek Orthodox worshippers prefer white flowers. Catholics also find nearly all flower arrangements acceptable, though you may want to give them a mass card, instead. For Hindus, think about garlands instead of flower arrangements. In the case of Jewish friends, send gift baskets directly to the homes of mourners, unless you know for sure that their Synagogue welcomes flowers. Ask the family members of any Muslim before you send flowers to their funeral. They may wish you to donate to charity, instead.

Can I Still Send Flowers If I Missed the Funeral?

If you missed the funeral, you may still send sympathy flowers to the loved ones of the deceased, after the funeral, for up to a week. If you just missed the first visitation, you may send funeral flowers for the second (if there is one) or for the graveside service. Often times, you should just send flowers directly to the home of loved ones of the deceased, though, if you miss their funerals. Ask your local florist about what types of arrangements would be most thoughtful or appropriate and visit this blog.

Invitations with “In Lieu” of Flowers

For those invitations that say, “In lieu” of flowers, you may want to refrain from sending them. Instead, donate to a charity or organization on their behalf. Or, send a gift basket to the loved-ones. If all else fails, you can send a living plant directly to those who are in mourning. Living plants are not technically flowers, and will last much longer than floral arrangements. Some find them to be a fitting remembrance for those who have passed on.

Etiquette for Those Ordering Flowers

Finally, remember your etiquette when you order flowers. Figure out what you will say on the card. Also, have, on-hand, your preferred payment method. Know the full-name of the deceased, and where the funeral is taking place. Or, alternatively, know the name of the loved one you are sending flowers to, as well as their address. This assures you that there will be no errors in placing your order, where the flowers are delivered, or in payment being processed. Be sure to place your orders early, as this gives your florist more time to make the best arrangement possible.

Here are some of the funeral directors serving Perth area.

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